Codependency Quotes

Are you have a difficult time breaking free from codependent behaviors? If so, you aren’t alone. It can be really tough to change any habits, let alone ones you have been stuck with for so long. With this being said, there are many codependency quotes that our Through the Archway team would like to share with you today. Our hope is that these quotes help you to see that you can get better and live more independently. If you need help overcoming codependent behaviors, please feel free to reach out to us here at Through the Archway. 

Assertiveness and Setting Boundaries

One part of codependency is not being assertive or setting healthy boundaries. These two things can go hand-in-hand because when you are setting better boundaries, you need to be assertive in doing so. 

When we start to set good boundaries with those we care about, it can hurt. This is a normal feeling because people aren’t always that great with change. It can feel like a hole was created in your life that needs to be filled. Don’t fill it back up with codependent behaviors. Our Through the Archway team has a range of treatments we can offer to help you stick with these new boundaries and to help you develop more assertiveness, as well. 

On this note, we have a few boundary-setting and assertiveness quotes we would like to share with you –

• Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others. (Brene Brown)

• When you say yes to others make sure you are not saying no to yourself. (Paulo Cohelo)

• We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or cruel when we speak our truths. (Melody Beattie)

• Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept. (Anna Taylor)

If you connect with one of these codependency quotes more than the other, we highly recommend writing it down somewhere that you will see it often. By doing that, you are setting it in stone and more likely to make it a new, healthy habit. 

Letting Go of Rescuing, Enabling, and Controlling

Are you always there to rescue your loved ones? Do you enable them often? What about trying to control their every move or decision? If you said yes to any of these questions, you are likely in a codependent relationship and you aren’t alone. There are millions of others who do the very thing you are doing. 

It can be extremely tough to break free from this type of relationship. However, letting go of rescuing, enabling and controlling behaviors is going to help you and the other person in your relationship more than you realize right now. 

Here are some codependency quotes that can help you to let go of these codependent habits –

• Allowing others to suffer the consequences of their own actions, without enabling them, is the best motivation for them to undertake the difficult task of change. (Darlene Lancer)

• As long as you continue to react so strongly to them, you give them the power to upset you, which allows them to control you. (Susan Forward)

• No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There’s only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to do it. And there’s only one time it will happen: When they decide they’re ready. (Lori Deschene)

• Even when I detach, I care. You can be separate from a thing and still care about it. (David Levithan)

• I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people’s lives, problems, and wants set the course of my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life. (Melody Beattie)

Take some time to think about these codependency quotes. You might find they connect deeply with your life and how you have been going about things with those you care about. 

Self-Care is Crucial 

When it comes to breaking free from codependent habits and behaviors, you will need to practice a lot of self-care. The way you take care of yourself and the amount that you do it is going to determine whether you are able to stop being so codependent. With this being noted, here are some great self-care codependency quotes that can help you along the way – 

• Self-care is how you take your power back. (Lalah Delia)

• No more martyring myself. (Sharon E. Rainey)

• When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings you joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. (Jean Shinoda Bolen)

Self-care is crucial in everyone’s life. If you are going to overcome codependent behaviors, be sure you are leaving time for self-care everyday, at various points throughout the day. Even if it is only for a few minutes, you will see just how important it is. 

Self-Love and Self-Acceptance 

Out of everything in recovery, self-love and self-acceptance are key to overcoming challenges and living your best life. When it comes to overcoming codependent behaviors, there are many codependency quotes that can help you to practice better self-love and self-acceptance such as:

• Forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time. Forgive yourself for giving away your power. Forgive yourself for past behaviors. Forgive yourself for the survival patterns and traits you picked up while enduring trauma. Forgive yourself for being who you needed to be. (Audrey Kitching)

• Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness. (Deborah Day)

• The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. (Ernest Hemingway)

• Most of our suffering comes from resisting what is already here, particularly our feelings. All any feeling wants is to be welcomed, touched, allowed. It wants attention. It wants kindness. If you treated your feelings with as much loved as you treated your dog or your cat or your child, you’d feel as if you were living in heaven every day of your sweet life. (Geneen Roth)

• Compassion isn’t some kind of self-improvement project or ideal that were trying to live up to. Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves, all those imperfections that we don’t even want to look at. (Pema Chodron)

• Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are. (Brene Brown)

Think about these quotes for a bit. Find your favorites and post them where you can see them regularly. 

Use These Codependency Quotes to Overcome Codependent Behaviors

Recovering from codependency is difficult. However, with the help of our Through the Archway team and these codependency quotes, you can do it. Contact us today if you need or want to attend a treatment program that can help you through your recovery from codependency.